"You why~!"
A younger child that is curious and careless has many incidents to be scolded about in front of the meticulous older child that manages well on own.
It is a heart aching thing to see the little child getting used to being scolded and coward as more time pass by.
One strand of thought came to my mind one day when I was praying.
I made a complimentary book so that I calculate and give money for every compliment, making the older child find good things about the younger one.
Although the money was little, the response was good for the older one since he gets unexpected money and for the little one that gets to hear good words.
After couple of days
I saw the complimenting notebook
and I got to see new two sides of both children saying
'wow you are good at this kind of thing too~!'
'how did you ever discover this part of him?'
The numbers of yelling and scolding definitely decreased.
I think the perspective changed and came to acknowledge the good sides since the older one tries to
find good sides.
Although you see a same person, same action
with what kind of eyes and heart you treat
can determine that person's destiny or sometimes eternity as well.